Pay attention to your hair. Even doing a quick comb through can make a big difference. For girls especially, straightening or curling their hair can give them a confidence boost. If you wear makeup, make sure that it is applied well and will last all day. Also make sure that you are taking care of your body in general by getting enough sleep and taking care of your skin so you look fresh and healthy.
If people at your school dress similarly or in uniform, wear a statement necklace or a pair of cool sneakers to catch the attention of your crush. If you are in a professional work environment, wear something that is appropriate but different. For instance, wear a collared shirt with an interesting pattern or a sparkly headband.
For instance, if your crush is in your yoga class, don’t dress for class like you’re headed to the red carpet. Remember that everything is better in moderation. This goes for perfume and cologne as well.
Don’t do it to the point where you’re around your crush more than you should be. There’s a difference between making sure your crush sees you around and stalking your crush.
You could start a conversation with something as simple as, “So when’s the final project for English due again?” If you end up talking a lot to your crush’s friends, you’re bound to meet or hang out with your crush before long. Becoming friends with your crush’s friends is a way to get into your crush’s good books. Don’t talk about your crush to his friends. If you start asking about your crush immediately after meeting them, it will be obvious that you like him. Try to play it cool.
Make eye contact and smile. Eye contact and smiling shows that you are friendly and approachable, but you have to make sure not to overdo it. If your crush doesn’t respond the first time, don’t keep doing it. If you’re a girl, play with your hair, especially if it’s long. Twirl your hair around your finger or brush it to the side. Drawing attention to your hair is a way of highlighting one of your assets.
For instance, if you are waiting in line for something, ask your crush, “Hey, do you think the wait is worth it?” If you are in the break room at work you could say, “Have you tried the cookies Susan brought in? They’re really good!” Asking a question is a good way to start a conversation. For instance, if you are in the same class you could ask, “Hey, what did Mr. Feinstein say the homework was again?” You could also ask for help. Whether it be opening a jar, reaching for something, carrying a heavy suitcase, or getting help with homework, asking your crush for help is a great way to start a conversation. It also will make your crush feel good about himself, which is a good way to have your first interaction with him be a positive one.
For instance, If are both on the school track team, ask your crush “So how are you feeling about the next track meet?”
For example, ask your crush, “So how long have you been working here?”, or, “What other classes are you taking this semester?”
Try to respond with meaningful follow-up questions, or something that shows your crush you are interested and listening. If your crush is talking about taking scuba lessons, ask him how he became interested in diving, or where he’s taking classes, or how long it will take to become certified. Don’t see a pause in the conversation as an opportunity to change the focus over to yourself. Conversations should be give-and-take, so you shouldn’t spend the entire time talking about your crush, but it also shouldn’t seem like you’re just waiting for him to take a breath so you can talk about yourself. Showing that you are a good listener and genuinely interested in your crush and what he has to say can help him feel comfortable around you. If it doesn’t make you too nervous, make eye contact with your crush to show that you are listening and engaged. Don’t stare — that could be a little too intense — but try to meet his gaze occasionally. Show that you’re listening by nodding or make an affirming sound (like “Mmm hmm” or “Right”).
If you know your crush through a sport, you could say, “I’ve seen you playing soccer. You’re really good!” You could also just say, “I like your shirt,” or compliment her on some other aspect of her appearance. Limit yourself to one compliment to avoid looking like you are sucking up to her.
As you laugh, you can even say, “You’re so funny!” If want to be extra flirtatious, touch your crush’s arm while you laugh. This adds another layer of connection and is a way to make your crush feel closer to you.
If you’re a sporty guy, wear your favorite team’s jersey. If you’re feminine and cute, embrace this side of yourself by wearing pastels and lacy clothes. If you’re more of a rebel, wear band shirts and black jeans. Don’t copy your crush’s style. Just because your crush has a very preppy style, don’t think you have to dress like you’re going to a country club if that’s not your look. You need to feel comfortable and feel like yourself in your clothes.
Try your best to be cheerful and upbeat around your crush. People are naturally attracted to happy and confident people, so do your best to be positive when they are around.
Try to craft your social media presence to show you in the best possible light. Make sure that your posts and pictures present you as a positive and interesting person. Make sure that you aren’t tagged in any unflattering photos or photos of you doing anything inappropriate.
