If you feel yourself getting upset or tense, use some calming techniques before talking to your friend. Taking slow, deep breaths is a well-known way to reach a calm place. You can also try counting backwards or actively counting your breaths. This will distract you from a stressful situation and help you center yourself. [2] X Research source
Make sure your tone says you are asking because you care. You can try stating what you see, then asking if everything is alright — “You don’t seem to be yourself today. Is everything OK?” or “Your reaction seemed a little over-the-top. You OK?” Your friend might not be able to articulate what is causing them to feel sad one minute and happy the next. But just trying to put it into words will often take the emotion out of the situation and help your friend get back on an even keel.
If your friend asks you to leave, be sure to check on them later. You don’t want them to feel abandoned.
Some moody people use their moods to control their friends and gain attention. If you feel you are always tip toeing around a friend, and always the one who is making compromises to avoid a scene, your friend might be manipulating you. Be kind, but don’t feel you always need to do things their way just to make them happy or avoid drama.
Some signs that your friend needs more help than you can give include uncontrollable sadness, anger and crying. Uncontrollable laughter and manic highs are also signs that your friend’s mood swings are more serious than normal. [10] X Research source Your friend might need professional help if their moods swings are caused by drug or alcohol abuse. Eating disorders can also cause mood swings. Friends exhibiting this behavior need more support than you can give. Don’t hesitate to seek outside help. [11] X Research source
Corporate HR offices and school counseling centers can help guide you. There are several help lines listed online that will provide trained personnel to talk with your friend and suggest local resources. You can also look for free or low-cost services through the mental health division at your local hospital or medical center.
Encourage your friend to call or text a suicide hotline. They can reach an adviser by calling the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988. If your friend won’t call, you can call to get guidance on what to do. [12] X Trustworthy Source National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Suicide prevention network operating a toll-free 24/7 hotline for anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts or emotional distress Go to source
